Blog 5 My Place :D

When I think of my bedroom, I realize why some people are irritable about who goes in their room or who has been touching things in their home, it is because those things are important to them and may have some meaning. Places like bedroom are very private to some people, its a places where we can relax and be comfortable and I think that is why it is important to people, because we can be ourselves and feel comfortable, we can also just sit down and rest our bones and relax. Another important reason is we can go there when we want privacy; we can just shut our door, maybe even lock it, and tell everyone in our household not to bother us. Also our rooms hold most of our personal belongings and those things are important to us and we do not want anyone else touching them or in some cases go near them.

When we are tired or not feeling the best we can go to our room, shut our door, and lie down and relax. Maybe even turn on some music or read a book or magazine. My bedroom has enough light. There I can stay for hours because there I feel secure, happy, and free. My bedroom represents me, the decorations show the things that I like. I decorated it with flowers, plants, chairs, pictures, etc. My bed is where I like to retreat to when I want to relax. I have a queen size bed with many pillows, and it has four windows where I can see the garden in the back yard. A lot of times I just lie down and close my eyes and daydream about places I’d like to see or think about things that makes me happy.

Moss rose in garden

The reason my bedroom is so important to me is because my room holds all of my personal belongings, which are very important to me. Also my room is a comfortable place to study and or just to relax.

I can also have privacy whenever I want it by resorting to my room, this may be hard for some people if they have to share a room. Whenever my mom is nagging at me or when I’m stressed out with school or work, I like to go into my room and just be myself. All my belongings in my room surround me and make me realize everything is going to be all right. It gives me a sense of security.

The way my room is set up makes it kind of cluttered, but that is the way I like it and I don’t care what anyone says. As you first come into my room, to the right is my dresser. My dresser is full of things like perfume, jewelry, hair ties, my alarm clock and just a bunch of junk, mostly things that come out of my pockets at the end of the day. The dresser itself is cream white with six drawers, sets of three side by side. Next to my bed which is in the middle of the room is my entertainment center which holds my stereo and pictures and just odds and ends. Everything is worth keeping.

I believe that other people feel the same way about their rooms and homes; it gives people a sense of security in a way that you can control what goes in your room and who goes in your room. It sort of gives people power which may mean a lot to some people. My room holds almost all of my personal belongings, which I think almost everybody’s rooms do. I am sort of protective of the things in my room because a lot of my belongings have sentimental value. My hope chest is filled with things I will need in the future like towels, cooking utensils, blankets, old picture frames and other little things, these things mean a lot to me because a lot of these objects belonged to my late grandmother and I am honored to own them. I treasure all my belongings and do not like other people to move or to borrow without asking and I think that a lot of people feel the same way. When someone touches our things we tend to get upset and I think in a way we are sort of honoring our possessions. My favorite place is a place where I can feel comfortable and happy. Because my bedroom has all these characteristics, I can call it my favorite place to relax and be myself.

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Blog 4

I believe the widespread imbalance in the interests and expectations between the sexes, poses as a communication gap between the two genders. It causes us to have different impressions of social interaction between men and woman. One must understand the other sex in order to come up with a solution.

In Deborah Tannen’s essay on Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other, she tries to inform us of this lack of communication between men and women and the problems that it can cause. The author starts off by giving the reader an example of a situation involving a man and his wife where the husband would comment on how much his wife is the talker in the family and how she is always talking when she is at home. This demonstrates that men generally talk more in public situations, while women tend to talk more at home. She follows up by talking about how most of the women that divorced gave lack of communication as the reason for the divorce while only a few men cited it as a reason. Most wives want their husbands to be, foremost, conversational partners; someone they can share their feelings and opinions with. Many men, however, do not share this expectation with their wives. Given this, the author suggested this is one of the main reasons for the escalating divorce rate in America.

She goes on by comparing the difference in behavior between boys and girls and how they only interact with their own gender. Girls tend to talk much amongst each other, often trading secrets and gossiping. For girls, oral communication is the basis of their relationships.

Boys, on the other, hand tend to communicate more physically than orally, by playing sports and doing other things with each other. So conversations between boys don’t play a significant part in their relationships. Boys groups tend to be larger, where it is better not to be in the lower position in the group. The author relates this to how some men don t really like to listen, because listening makes them feel like one rank lower than the speaker, just like how children feel looked down upon when their parents are talking to them.
Some women feel like men sometimes don’t listen to what they are saying, when in fact, they are. This is because men don’t usually like to look the other person in the eye much when they are being spoken to. They are more easily distracted by their surroundings, and so their eyes tend to wander around. An example is given between a guy and his girlfriend where the man would lie down on the floor and cover his eyes with his arms when his girlfriend was talking to him. This gave the girlfriend the impression that her boyfriend was taking a nap and completely ignoring her. In actuality, he is trying to concentrate by blocking his vision from surrounding distractions. When women talk, they tend to stay on one topic, whereas men like to jump from one topic to the next. This leads to the next point that the author makes, which says that men often switch topics. This gives the woman the impression that they are not really listening. Men s conversation don’t normally last very long, but women tend elaborate much in a within a topic.

In conversations, men can feel as frustrated at women s habits as women are to men s habits. Men who expect the listener to be quiet while he is talking can be offended when the listener says things like mhm, uhuh, and yeah because it implicates the listener as overacting or impatient. Women like to hear these listener-noises because it shows that the listener is agreeing with or acknowledging the speaker.

Once communication problems are understood by both sexes, improvement can comes naturally because of mutual expectations of each other and the human’s ability to adjust.

Works Cited

Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?

by Deborah Tannen

The Washington Post, June 24, 1990

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“I want a Wife” By Judy Brady

In Judy Brady’s informal or personal essay, “I Want a Wife”, she explains why she would want a wife. She is humorously in her essay while teaching the unmarried and also the married women the role of an uncomplicated wife. At times, everyone wishes they had someone to relay on and do things for him or her (Ethos).

Pathos- She ends up answering the question, “why I want a wife?” and concluding “my god, who wouldn’t want a wife?” at the end. This shows she has comfortably stated what she had to say.

Logos- The essay is very well put together by the way it’s illustrating how a dream wife
should be. Which is Brady wanting a wife so she can be independent, can take care of her physical needs, take care of her children, sensitive to her sexual needs. She lays out a list of what most women do when they have the job of a wife, such as taking care of any needs for her children, working her self, giving support to her husband while he goes to school, etc.

In the essay “I Want a Wife”, the author uses different words and ways to get the
reader’s attention. Brady’s uses repetition to make sure her point is getting across. She is
constantly describing what she wants in a wife and what she wants her to take care of. An
example of this is “I want a wife who will not bother me with rambling complaints about
a wife’s duties.” She believes every husband’s depends on the wife to take care of
everything while they do nothing. Throughout the whole essay this line “I want a wife…”
is used in many different listing of jobs that a wife performs. The use of “I” is also
repeated and shows the selfishness of a husband’s point a view, “I want a wife who will
work and send me to school”. Another example of being selfish in the essay is “… a wife
who will pick up after me”. The essay also uses connotation in some sentences, “it
suddenly occurred to me that too would like a wife”.

There are various types of ways syntax is used in the essay. Diverse style
techniques, such as repetition and irony, are used along with the structural technique of
using levels of intimacy. Anaphora; One of the main style techniques is repetition of “I want a wife…” and the use of “I” and “my”. This emphasizes the ideas that she is stating by
making her ideas stronger and shows the selfish viewpoint of a husband. She gives the
reader different views of a wife to picture in their mind and shows how much a husband
aspects out of a wife. As examples, a husband wants the wife ‘not to bother him, with
rambling complaints, types papers for him’, ‘be independent, so he can go to school and
study whatever he wants’, ‘physical needs, cooks good meals, plans the menus, do
grocery, picks up after him, keeps the house clean’, ‘take care of his and his kids social
life’, ‘sexual needs’ and ‘quit working after he’s done his studies’. Along with repetition,
irony is used from the beginning of the essay, starting with the title. 
One of the rhetorical devices that this essay uses is repetition. This is used to
show the selfish viewpoint of husbands and young men who picture a wife that would do
everything for them. Brady’s use of repetition of words makes her ideas stronger. She is direct in the details while repeating the issues that concern her in her own life, “I want a wife who will plan the menus, do the necessary grocery shopping, prepare the meals, serve them pleasantly, and then do the cleaning up while I do my studying”. It makes it easier to understand what she is saying and going through that she would want a wife of her own while she is a wife her self. Repeating of words such as ‘I want…, child, food, friends, study, cleans, helping, house, needs, wife’s duties, etc.’, shows what in her life she cares for and illustrates a sexist part of how young men think what they are going to get out of their wives. There is also a lot of repetition of “I want awife…”, “I”, “my”, to make the point across to the readers.

Another rhetorical device used in this essay is irony. It’s used to add a little
humor and to expand a judgment of how man perspective is on gender roles. “I want a
wife who will work and send me to school”. Irony is used from the starting of the essay
to the end. From the title, the audience would think the author is a male but it isn’t. The
way the whole essay is written on regretting on being a wife and now thinking about
owning one is kind of adding sarcasm, along with irony. By the use of irony in the essay,
it sends a massage to all the male readers who depiction of having a faultless wife in their
future life. The strategy of using irony is that it shows that all males are looking for a wife
as prefect as the one described by Brady. They think about the things that their wife’s
would do to make their lives trouble-free. As for physical and social needs: “I want a wife who will keep my clothes clean”, “who cooks the meals”, “who will care for me when I am sick” and “a wife who will take care of my social life. And while I am going to school I want a wife to take care of my children”.

Hyperbole; In addition to the other rhetorical devices, there is imagery as well. It puts a
picture in the reader’s mind when she lists the things that she would want a wife to do.
Brady uses imagery to also describe a lot of things that wife’s do and it makes it clear to
understand. When the reader’s are reading the essay, they can relate to it, because she
describes everything in detail and the readers don’t have problem illustrating the images,
so it is easier for them to relate to. They can also picture what she is going through that
she has such detail ideas of what she wants a wife to do.

The tone in the easy is mostly selfish and sexist. Brady lists many jobs that a wife
dose and is expected to do by everyone. She plays a role in her life doing the same jobs
for her husband and her children and now she seems to be sick of them and wants a wife
of her own to help out. Though she describes the behavior of a male wanting a wife in his
life, so he can depend on her for everything and do nothing himself. This shows the
sexist and the selfish viewpoint by men over the role of a wife.

As for me I think I would also like a wife, to do all the household tasks. It would make my life a lot easier.

Works Cited
Brady, Judy. I want a wife. 1971. Web.
http://bcs.bedfordstmartins.com/everythingsanargument4e/content/cat_020/Brady_I_Want_a_Wife.pdf

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Oliver Goldsmith and Ismael Reed

National Prejudices

In this article Oliver Goldsmith talks about his encounter with a group of men who were engaged in a conversation about the different characters of the nations of Europe. He then goes on to talk about how one of the men put negative prejudices on the Dutch, French, German, and Spanish and then said that the English were the best. At this remark no one at the table disagreed, but Goldsmith. He turned around and said positive things about the Dutch, French, German, and Spanish and said negative about the English. The point Goldsmith tries to get across is that we shouldn’t be people who believe and say we belong only to a certain group, region, or society; we should be people of the world. The second thing Goldsmith talks about is how everyone, even a gentleman, is guilty of putting prejudices on people. He says that prejudices infect the mind and influence conduct and that prejudices can only be fixed by reading, traveling, and conversing with foreigners. The tone of Goldsmith is persuasive and informative. He used sophisticated, descriptive, specific language, versus telling. He used long compound/complex complicated sentences, which was hard to understand.

This article is very interesting. It proves that there are prejudices all around us. Prejudices go on between the different races, heritages, and societies and classes. We don’t know or understand what it’s like for the other group or what they stand for so we place a prejudice on them. But, like Goldsmith said, it can be fixed through reading, traveling and conversing. If we did all this we could learn to appreciate each other and become united. Like the philosopher in Goldsmiths’ article said: we should be people of the world, not people of a group or society or specific origin.

Multinational Society

Ishmael Reed talked about how one man told him of Detroit and all the differences that lie there, any from mosques made by Islamic people to Hispanic people. He talked of the paintings in the McDonalds’s Restaurant that had been drawn by Afro-Americans. Reed does not believe in this “Western Civilization” instead he believes that this is a mixture of many different cultures coming together. He discusses the fact that people have been coming here since the discovery of the United States and has been influencing our culture ever since. He also talk about his experience of visiting Texas where Spanish is becoming the second official language, a “white” professor who engages himself in minority culture, and pictures of African and Afro-American mythological symbols handing in the Local McDonald’s restaurant. These real life examples get the readers’ attention and recognition. He argues that it is being fought that even our government system may not have even come from European government systems but instead from the Native Americans that were originally here.

He starts the essay with an example of a Chinese woman eating a pizza in front of a Ty Thuan Duc’s Vietnamese grocery store from New York Times. This example gives the readers a vivid image of their everyday life, people from different races, speaking different languages living in the United States and settling down. And yet, the source New York Times adds up the credibility, convincing the readers that the writer didn’t make up the story himself.

Reed relates to his personal experience about a poet describing a city that has mosques built by Islamic people and meanwhile forty thousands of Hispanic people living there. Turns out, this city is Detroit. This answer is out of the readers’ expectation but not ironic at all, it proves that America’s multinational characteristic is not just revealed in big cities like New York and Los Angles, it is a nationwide

The tone of Reed’s essay is happy and welcoming. It supports the author’s confidence in his point of view and celebrates “multiculturalism.” He used figurative language throughout the essay.

There are many days where I see something that may be influenced by another country that I do not even recognize that it is influenced by another country. Like Reed mentioned about the Mosque in Detroit, I have seen a Mosque many times before and never thought anything of it being made by people that were not originally from here. If you think about all of our histories, all of our family backgrounds, there are very limited amount of people that can honestly say they cannot trace their family back to a time when they were not in America. This tells us that not only are we influencing other countries but other countries are influencing us more than we know.

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How It Feels To Be Colored Me by Zora Hurtson

Does this essay speak to you in any way?

The short descriptive story How It Feels To Be Colored Me by Zora Hurtson was really interesting to me, the story is based in Eatonville, Florida which is the first African American incorporated town. In those types of towns strictly African Americans lived in them, but on occasion white people would pass through. Living in a world like this would be hard for me because I can always remember having white, Mexican, and Indian people around.  In this story Hurtson discovers her identity and self-pride. “Sometimes, I feel discriminated against, but it does not make me angry. It merely astonishes me. How can any deny themselves the pleasure of my company? It’s beyond me”. I love this quotation. It is amazing how Hurston takes her situation and makes it “their loss” for not knowing her. I also like the metaphor she uses about the brown paper bag. Everyone is just a good and just as bad as anyone else. Everyone is the same; we are simply different color paper bags. “A bit of colored glass more or less would not matter.” she is right, we are all the same inside, despite our colors on the outside. I love her objective way of looking at the situation differently. Hurston says in the story, “At certain times I have no race, I am me.” I feel that this quote is extremely true and important and should be taught to people throughout the world, because sometimes a person’s race can become an excuse for them to act a certain way. But, in the end all they should really do is just be they.

What do you notice about her choice of words, her imagery, and her tone?

The tone of the essay is more informal and conversational.  She uses colorful diction, imagery and figurative language to take the reader on this journey.

How about you? Was there a time in your life you were suddenly aware of differences in people? How did you feel about it?

I was only 8 years old when I first came to United States, California . My first expression seeing American white people was how someone can be so light skinned?!

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